dogsonline:

#rape #sexual assault #signal boost (in case people whitelist that) hey so this is joseph she is a serial rapist and generally across the board sexually inappropriate and manipulative person who has assaulted one of my roommates. she has recently “confronted” (verbally, i dont have details) a friend of one of her other victims at their workplace. she is a homeless (as far as i know right now, let me know if im wrong) trans woman in the portland oregon area. i would strongly encourage you to avoid becoming close to her. again: she is very very manipulative and has been sexually abusive in the past. if you hear that she is looking for anyone specific, please let me know so i can let her victims know and they can stay safe. they are still dealing with the damage she inflicted and are now also trying to figure out how to make sure she isnt planning on stalking or approaching or assaulting them. thank you

dogsonline:

rapists in queer communities are usually people who are able to twist the general common language and ideology and culture of their communities to avoid repercussions in the same way other rapists are able to twist the shared language and ideology and culture of THEIR communities in order to manipulate everyone around them into enabling their continuing abuse

A message from luuvin


Hello, this is by no means me "coming for you" or something in any way but I did wanna ask you something about that slightly infamous post. Obviously Gwen and Katy etc. appropriated Japanese culture or whatever according to you. And I see people writing nasty "weeb" (? what is that) comments to you but I just wanted to ask what the difference is between Katy wearing a geisha outfit and you dressing sweet lolita? I just wanted to hear it explained. Not an attack so please don't take offense! <3

tasukusexgirlfriend:

petitepasserine:

Thank you so much for inquiring me about this! There are a lot of questions people have brought up on the original post and I wish I could name all of the problematics, so I really appreciate me when you come to me and ask personally! And don’t worry hihi you’re super polite and I get that you’re confused, I’m not offended in the least. ; /// ; 

I’ll try to make it simple and understandable, I’m not too good with words but basically;

Sweet lolita is a japanese street style that started in the 70’s. Meaning, it’s modern, it holds no traditional value, it’s pop culture that is meant to be spread and japanese jfashionistas are constantly trying to spread the word of sweet lolita and other modern, japanese street styles. Sweet lolita or, in general, the entire lolita aesthetic is also based off victorian, regency and retro clothing, especially victorian childrens clothing. These are all styles that spawned in the west - so the japanese are, in fact, drawing inspiration from us, making it into a street style that holds no traditional or religious or ancient values, and then people of all other races and ethnicities join in. So basically, when I wear sweet lolita, I’m merely making a fashion statement that holds no traditional, cultural or religious values, especially because sweet lolita spawned in the 70’s and is modern. This is what we can call culture appreciation.

Katy Perry dressing up as a ”geisha” wearing a ”kimono” is an entirely different matter. Katy Perry is a white, powerful woman, dressing up as something that in no way belongs to her own culture. Neither geishas or kimonos are modern, cute street styles - they’re both elements of Japans native, traditional cultures and they’ve been around for centuries. Katy Perry steals the traditional garbs and the role of a native japanese entertainer because she wants to seem edgy, she wants to seem innovative, and because Katy Perry is a disturbing japanophile that. ”I’m so obsessed with you I want to skin you and wear you like Versace!” Thats her own words. She literally views Japan and Japanese people as something for her to wear as an accessory.

Whats worse about the whole kimono-ordeal is the fact that it’s not even a proper kimono. The darn thing wasn’t sexy enough for her. Heres Katy Perry in her terrible ”kimono”, heres what kimonos actually look like. Notice how the traditional, cultural kimonos are covering and the only thing visible to you is face, hands and neck. Katy Perry sexualized the culture of oppressed people, she stole their traditional garment, made a cutout in the front for her cleavage, slits up the sides for her delectable legs, and threw in some korean, chinese and vietnamese influence while at it, because ”all asians look the same and theres no difference between their cultures, right???”

So basically, when Katy Perry wears a ”kimono” and tries to pass it off as a kimono, she isn’t making a fashion statement, she is directly stealing from another culture, sexualizing their traditions, throwing asians into one category and on top of it all, enforcing the idea that all japanese women are submissive little pets by singing the song ”Unconditionally” while she’s at it. This is called cultural appropriation.

TLDR:Me wearing sweet lolita is just me wearing a modern fashion that spawned in the 70’s that holds no cultural, traditional or religious values. Katy Perry wearing a sexualized kimono is a white, powerful woman turning the traditions and values of oppressed people into something sexy and costumey. 

Ahh sorry oh my gosh that turned into such a long rant! ; __ ; I hope I made myself clear and I really get it if you think it’s all very confusing, but I’m super glad that you actually took your time to ask about it, thats a great mindset and I wish more people did what you’ve done, so thank you!

bohemianstreetrat wearing lolita clothes is ok, but using asian women as props/ accessories isnt is what the original post was trying to get across. this explains it better though.  

weeb is short for this

weeaboo (plural weeaboos)

  1. (slang, derogatory) A white person who behaves or seeks to appear stereotypically Japanese.

Ever since I moved I have been having a lot of positive experiences. One thing I would like to acknowledge is the conversations I have with my roommates,sister,and boyfriend lately. I am so used to having “conversations” with people who don’t process what I am saying and give it an appropriate response. Lately I am actually talking to people who hear what I am saying,think about it and then respond in a way that shows that they understood what I was saying and delegate a response that makes sense. For once in my life I don’t feel like I am being talked at. My parents always talked at me,they never talked with me. I am no longer just wasting my breath people actually HEAR me now. It is very refreshing and I am really grateful.    

bittertransformer:

willowbambi:

I’ve seen so many beautiful places this week, I just feel so fulfilled inside.

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bittertransformer:

willowbambi:

I’ve seen so many beautiful places this week, I just feel so fulfilled inside.

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